Men are usually not victims of relationship issues but it's not impossible to find some men trapped in hell in their relationship. Will you say they're 'mumu' or what?
My guy, I know you seriously need a good woman to marry but you must be careful of the lady you propose to before you carry sontin wey pass you in marriage. And if them don join you two together, na for better for worse. Divorce doesn't make you unmarried before God, you're only an adulterer. The only ground you can be divorced is on the grounds of adultery but forgiveness isn't impossible.
Are you smart enough to discover these things in your relationship? Leave her quick quick!
1. If she can't manage money but buys everything that is irrelevant, my guy, leave her
Women ought to be a good manager when it comes to handling money, but if the one you enter relationship with always buy what she doesn't need, you better look well before you leap so that in marriage, she won't use your 'Owo obe' to buy Aso-ebi.
2. If she's the type that tells you to prove to her that you're not impotent, abeg run o!
Abi you sef wan prove? A woman that offers herself cheaply for sex has two agenda. It's either she's an agent from the underworld or she's a Delilah. If you too wan prove say you be man, you're on your own.
Women who are sexually loose are a no go area. If she's a sex freak before marriage and you give it to her, when you fail to satisfy in marriage, don't be surprised if you see her and Kamoru, the gateman frolicking when you return from the office (In Jenifa's voice).
3. If she can't help your God given purpose, LEAVE her!
Did you see that in capital letters? A man who has discovered God's purpose for his life won't just marry any lady that comes her way. She may have all it takes to be a good wife if you check her spiritual horoscope, my guy, leave her.
It is only men who are spiritually connected to God that can understand this.
4. If she saves your name as my ATM or she treats you as an ATM, use panasharp o
See some ladies ehn, the only time they'll come close to you or be nice is when they need your help. If you don offer help finish, she go vamoose and you won't see her again until she needs money.
Don't let any lady use you as an ATM. There's nothing wrong in a lady supporting a man. Buying a little gift to show appreciation or paying for the meal occasionally isn't a crime. If you marry her ehn, na you go foot all her bills and if possible, her friends and family.
5. If she's the type that likes 'Owanbe' and Aso-ebi, think twice o
It's good to celebrate with those who are rejoicing but it's not a must to attend all the party. Some ladies and Owanbe or Aso-ebi are like five and six. If all she's concerned about is partying and Aso-ebi and you marry, she may not be a good mother unless she change before marriage. Some women don't change in marriage o! Don't let anyone deceive you.
6. If all she's concerned with is her physical appearance or personality impression, don't fall in love o
You know as a man, you're moved by sight, don't let one sister use her beauty to pack all your pot of soup. No be beauty you go chop inside marriage o, na character go belefu you.
And that she is a CEO or she sings like angel Soprano no mean say she's a wife material. Many ladies too dey carry ego for their shoulder pad. If she no fear God but she get beauty, think well o. What makes a woman marriageable is not her mascara or foundation, in fact, it's not the degree or the back and front wey she get, na the good character wey she get go make you enjoy marriage with her.
7. If she's gradually leading you away from God and you're giving her the place where God ought to take in your life, wise up and leave her fast
My Christian brothers, hear this matter very well. Any lady that tells you most times that you're too spiritual or serious with God, she'll likely reduce your love for God. Although, you too should not overdo it. There's a difference between spirituality and sexuality. Being spiritual doesn't mean you can't be romantic, don't be too spiritual to a fault that you can't communicate your wife's love language, however, balance the two.
As I was saying, if she tells you to spend more time with her rather than encourage you to get more of God, such woman is a fire extinguisher. Many firebrand brothers were unfortunate to marry this kain sisters and their love for God went straight into the bottomless pit. May God open your eyes to see them clearer than 3D.
8. If you're not sure she's God's will for your life, "What-are-you-waiting-for?" (In MFM's prayer chant). I do no talk say make you say die o, but leave her as fast as your legs could take you
Jokes apart! This is very SERIOUS and don't take it with levity. You can compromise some things but never take the place of God's guidance out of your life. If you are not fully persuaded that your woman is God's will for your life, leave her o.
I don't care if she is a wife material with 1000 yards. I'm not moved if people dey convince you say omo daada lomo yen o or people talk say two of you fit una self well well. E no 'consign' me even if she sabi cook Gbegiri and Ewedu, White soup or fit make Kunu Megida, my guy, let God guide you personally and let one or two people bear witness to it because in the mouth of two or more witnesses, every word shall be established.
Don't let anyone tell you to manage her or tell you say you no fit get complete woman. Na true dem talk but it is better for God to guide you to marry her than for people to make you believe say she be correct wife.
If God doesn't guide you, anything that comes from the marriage will be your cup of tea. Na the money I get I dey borrow you o. If you don't have peace of mind in your relationship with her, abi she get secret wey you no know, leave her.
I pray, you won't enter 'One chance' marriage wey you go dey regret later and become a philosopher because of bad marriage.
© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017
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