HandlingRelationshipIssues

What comes to mind when I remember the word 'Pressure' is from one of the cooking utensils I know of. Have you used a pressure cooker before?  It's a special cooking pot that boils food very fast without allowing the internal heat to escape sporadically. Without the external heat, no pressure can be made to cook whatever is placed inside of it.  There are lots of pressure people face in life: pressure from your workplace either from your colleagues or one wicked boss; pressure to get married, sexual pressure or the pressure that comes in when you're trusting God for the fruit of the womb. I would like to dwell on the pressure that comes in when you're carefully and prayerfully looking for whom to marry. Those in their late twenties and thirties can relate well with this scenario. Those who do not want to carefully or prayerfully decide on whom to marry are likely not going to face any pressure. But sadly, marriage is too 'dangerous...

I remember while growing up, we often set traps for grasscutters also known as bush meat. Those who grew up where there was farm or in rural areas can fully relate well with this kind of animals.  We have a trap made from a used cylindrical tin of beverages. The cover is removed and replaced with another cylindrical tin beaten into a flat shape to form a cover. A wood is nailed to it like a hand fan and a rubber from unused broom is tied to it to make a spring like device. A small hole with a protruding nail is inserted at the base and affixed with a small sized cassava tuber as the bait. This trap is usually placed in areas where they easily ply and latest two days after, an animal is taken in our trap. The bush meat is available to be smoked, skinned and feasted on. If you do not grow up in rural areas, you can't experience the delicacies of such inexpensive and scented meat. Do you know that many singles who became victims of sexual immoralities an...

Many false teachers are now building several doctrines when it comes to choosing a partner partner and one of such false doctrine is to 'Marry in the Lord', an avenue to independently choose whom to marry without God's guidance.  It actually sounds good, isn't it? To marry in the Lord could literally means to marry someone of the same faith. The fact that you're a Christian doesn't mean every other Christians are eligible to be married without God's guidance. Does it sound somehow?  Let me shock you, not everyone in the church is in the Lord. The church is like a hospital where you have doctors, nurses and patients. Doctors are those who administer help to patients. Nurses assist doctors in helping the patients.  There are more patients than doctors and nurses in the hospital, the same thing happens in the church.  Who's a patient? Patients are those who needed healing. They're diagnosed with one ailments or the other...

I used to think the devil was an ugly creature because childhood memories made him appear as a black, horrible and fearful creature. But when I grew up, I had to put away my childhood understanding about him and knew him for who he is. The devil is one of the most beautiful of God's creature. He was made from beautiful and precious stones unlike man that was made from the dust of the earth. Who knows whether that was why he was smarter than man. But I'm not here to tell you how wonderful he is; you can read more about what God use to make him in the Bible.  If God wants to help a man, He sends man to him and if the devil wants to destroy a man, he sends men to him but backs it up their activity in his life with one or more of his demons.  If the devil wants to destroy a virgin, he sends another virgin with a deluded mind or someone who doesn't care about virginity to make him or her trade his or her purity for immorality. If the devil wants t...

There is time for everything under the heavens, so says the Holy Bible. A time to be in a relationship and a time you must never keep a relationship when the things that matters in your life hasn't been established or set in order.  I receive quite a lot of messages from singles who want to know the right time to go into a relationship.  There are two kinds of relationships singles want to delve into. It's either they want to date or they're in a relationship leading to marriage. Going into a dating relationship has ruined the life of many young boys and girls who have a glorious destiny.  That your friends or mates are dating doesn't mean you should go into a dating relationship.  Why date when you're not ready for marriage? Why date when it'll expose you to sexual immoralities and you're not strong enough to control your sexual urge? What's the hype in a dating relationship?  Whether you'd believe it or not, dating...

A friend sent a post to me that has the caption of marrying someone you love and she sought my opinion concerning it. I'd like everyone to benefit from the outcome of my observations about the title. While I hold no argument against this literally, you won't marry someone you hate now, abi? But I'd not want you to use that as an excuse to lean on to your own understanding when it comes to choosing whom to marry without trusting in God. Many marry whom they love based on beauty and their preference. Some say beauty is in the eyes of the beholder while some choose based on their preference. "I want a tall, dark, rich and handsome guy with a broad chest and a baritone voice". Is marital success all about making preferences? The Bible has this to say about beauty, beauty is vain; but a woman that fears he Lord shall be praised (Proverbs 31:30). If you choose whom to marry based on how beautiful or handsome they are, what would happen whe...

"Let's just have it once and we won't do it again", he told her while breathing heavily. They had it more than once till they parted ways with a fight. "I wish I had never opened up my life to premarital sex, it wasn't easy to stay off. I had to settle for masturbation to keep myself", she expressed bitterly. "We did it only once and I missed my period the following month. I told my boyfriend and he told me to go and remove the thing", she narrated in regret. One thing most people don't know about sex outside marriage is that it's like a smoke you must not fan into flames when you're not ready for it otherwise it'll become an uncontrollable fire you cannot put off. Many who became addicted to sex, masturbation and pornography is as a result of their first time encounter with sex. Your first time encounter with a thing either leaves you dissatisfied or satisfied. Rather than open up...