HandlingRelationshipIssues

"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude" - Maya Angelou It is commonly said that change is a constant thing. Whether you know it or not, every living and non-living things will go to through a period of change. The clothes you wear will change color or reduce in size due to frequent washing or that you outgrow it. In relationship, one of the major cause of friction or issue is when a partner tries to change the other or make them conform to his or her belief and ideology about life miraculously. Ko le work! Change doesn't happen overnight, there’s a process and there's a price to pay for it. For instance, if a man marries a wife that cannot pray for thirty minutes or does not have appetite for spiritual things; complaining or nagging won't solve the problem, he must learn the process and how to effect change in her life. If you're in a boyfriend or girlfriend relations...

Until we all go back to the One who created us, we'll always have problems understanding how to relate with one another in peace and harmony.  Do you know who you are as a lady? You're not just a being with two breasts, a vagina and a bum; you're made to be a help meet to the man God has made for you.  You're supposed to be a help meet because it is God that is making you. But unfortunately, there are several people who are defining how a wife is to be made from a woman.  Who's making you a wife? So many wives are made by men, by the world, or they're trying to make themselves the kind of woman they want to be without allowing God to work in them both to will and do of His good pleasure.  How does men make a wife out of a woman? 1. By making them pregnant before marriage.  This is a common but sad means of becoming a wife. A lot of ladies became a wife after they have been made pregnant prior to marriage.  The dev...

One of the tragedies of life is not only ignorance but to deliberately violate divine laws at the expense of one's life.  There's no sexual relationship before or outside marriage that doesn't leave you without an effect but it is quite unfortunate that many only see the pleasure and not what is at stake. For every sexual relationship you have before or outside marriage, you're exposing yourself to destruction. God frowns at the defilement of the marriage bed and it is lack of understanding to love what God hates. Do you know what happens for every illicit sexual activities you have when you're not married or you do it outside your marriage?  "For by means of a whorish woman, a man is brought to a piece of bread" - Proverbs 6:26a Something is inevitably reduced. How can a man or woman be reduced to a piece of bread when they're alive? It shows that something that's not physical will be reduced in their life. No man...

It took me some years before I could gain admission into the University. I was among those whom 'Jamb' (Joint Admissions Matriculation Board) jammed several years before favor smiled at me. I wrote UME (University Matriculation Examination) thrice. If you like call me 'olodo', what I know is that time and chance happens to everyone in life. When your time hasn't come, your chances of making it would be very slim. When God says it's time for you to be favored, no Jupiter can stop you from moving forward. However, persist in the place of prayer and never give up before your time. In year one, I was a 'Jambito' (fresher or freshman) who knew nothing about the university environment. Campus life was all about lectures, hostel and fellowship. No social life. It was purely triangular! I tried to acclimatized with the fellowships around but most of them left me spiritually starved. Being sexually pure in thought wasn't easy because ...

It is commonly said that behind every successful man, there is a woman. And the kind of woman who stood behind this successful men are either their mothers or wives. However, a man doesn't become successful in marriage, he has started the journey prior to it. Dear sisters, what are you bringing into marriage?  I have heard sisters who say they do not want to marry "Too spiritual" brothers and honestly, I don't know what kind of man they want. Maybe I should help you out, it's better to marry a spiritual brother than to marry a carnally driven man because to be carnally minded is death (destruction) and to be spiritually minded is life and peace.  You can't marry a man who is in between the two options. It's either he's hot or cold and it's a tragedy to be lukewarm. I can go ahead to tell you the implications of being lukewarm or cold in marriage.  It's even better to marry a spiritual and romantic brother than to ...

There's a popular saying in this part of the world that love is blind. Honestly, I don't know the philosopher behind this saying or the relationship guru that postulated it as a fact. But unfortunately, it's becoming a national anthem sung by ignorant singles.  Many people who knew nothing about love would just swallow this phrase hook, line and sinker. And when they get into marriage, their eyes would be open to lots of things they were blind to.  How can you fall in love at first sight or say love is blind when you no next to nothing about the person - past, dreams, shortcomings, pursuit and you're yet to agree on the major issues of life? Know this, love cannot be blind to... 1. Character  No matter how much you're intoxicated by love, a bad character will be repulsive and can never be tolerated. Do not think love would make someone with a bad character change. They can only pretend for a while but not forever.  If he raises his voice at you or bangs the t...