Why Men Demand For Sex When You Ask Them For Money And What Ladies Should Do

It has been the chorus of many guys that ladies love money and some guys believe that when you demand for money, the only way for them to be compensated is to have sex with you. Many ladies even cry that men want sex every time they give them money.

Why is this so?

A general philosophy about relationships is in give and take. You rub my back, I scratch your back in return. From Monday to Wednesday, he'll spend on you and on weekends, he'll expect you to spend it with him.

Unfortunately, this incidence has made lots of ladies to be a Sex Bank. He'll invest some amount of money into you and later he'd expect to recoup his return through sexual intimacy.

This issue of men demanding for sex when they give you money, especially those who aren't godly is worthy of consideration. That a man goes to church doesn't mean he's godly, if he keeps giving you money, know for sure that someday, he'll expect his investment in you to yield returns.

Ladies, a carnal man is not a fool. You can't expect to eat your cake and have it. It's better not to ask him for money so that you can shun him off when he makes such demands from you. Even some 'spirikoko' brothers whose hormones aren't born again will expect to press do-re-mi on your body or enter the place. Asking some men for money is giving them a license to have sex with you.

If you don't want him to demand sex from you, do these.

1. Be contented

Godliness with contentment is of great gain. It's better to drink Gari with your sexual purity and dignity uncompromised than to be eating sharwama when all the better part of you have been milked and emptied. Wetin you wan leave for bro when he marries you?

If you can't afford a luxury life today, it doesn't mean you can't get it tomorrow if you work hard to make a living for yourself.

Lazy and discontented ladies are the main reasons why an average guy would demand sex from you. Aside indecent dressing, keeping bad friends and the likes that could make a guy demand sex from you, be contented with what you have or what your parents can offer.
And if you're not contented, go work to earn more. If you're not born with a silver spoon, work hard, not with your body but with your brain or talent so that you can eat with a golden spoon tomorrow.

2. Work

In all labor, there’s profit but the talk of the lips tends tot poverty. Beggars will always be at the mercy of the giver.

A man that gives you money can manipulate you to do what he wants because he's in control of your needs.
Go work to earn legit money and stop begging a man for money. You don't have to use what your mama gave you to earn what you want. Your body isn't a business centre, it's the temple of God.

God gave you a talent, a skill or you can learn a craft and use it to make money for yourself without depending on any man for living, whether you're single or married.

I will tell you this truth, men respect women who are financially independent. They keep them to their toes and cannot make sexual demands on them except they themselves want it.

3. Don't be covetous

If you're covetous, you'll be discontented; if you're lazy, you'll definitely beg money from men.

Don't be intimidated by the clothes your friends wear, the kind of foods they eat or the phones they use. Don't covet their jewelry, accessories or efizy, it'll push you to make unnecessary demands from men who would in turn ask you for sex.

Be satisfied with what you have today so that in the future, you can have enough of what you don't have yesterday provided you improve yourself.

4. Discover your purpose in life

God didn't create Eve to be a burden to Adam, she was a help meet. Do you know what that means? She had a capacity to be of help and she wasn't a liability.

When you don't know God's purpose for your life, men will use you to fulfill their own carnal purpose and you will also abuse His purpose for your life.
Men will demand sex from you because you don't know what God has created you to be. I understand that you may be in dire need of financial assistance but don't make it an every time affair to request money from guys. There are godly men who can give you money but won't demand for sex but they are very rare. You may or may not be fortunate to meet them but you can always work to earn a living.

A man will take you for a ride or even ride you rough when he's the one that feeds you directly or indirectly. You want to eat sharwama, you called him; you want to eat Suya, you texted him; you want to see a movie or eat pizza, you called him to come pick you up. Ahn, Ahn, what hapun na? What else do you think he wouldn't demand from you?
And guys abeg, if she's demanding for too much money, jejely advice her to go and work or quit the relationship. Demanding sex from a lady isn't ideal, it shows that you're a sex freak. There are lots of benefits to get from a woman which is far greater than sex.

My dear, do you have nice fingers? Don't just paint the nails, go and learn how to use your hands to make cool and godly money. Do you have hot legs? Use it to make cool money. And if you have a brain, that's lots of possibilities for you to earn a living. Don't build your life around a man but be financially independent and live within your means.

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