We are creatures wired to have sexual desires except for those who were born or made an eunuch. It's not a crime to feel sexually attracted to the opposite sex but it becomes an issue when you follow the pattern of your desire.
Many became victims of sexual sins because they fail to separate what they need from what they want. Singles don't need sex, it's solely reserved for the married. The married shouldn't deprive their partners of sex because they need it.
What are the things you need about sex?
1. Knowledge
Knowledge is the acquisition of information about a subject matter. It is good to acquire information about sex but it's worst to process the information at the wrong time.
Information about sex can be acquired through several means but the most dangerous thing is to go the length of becoming curious to know what you don't need now about it.
Children who are not adequately informed about sex have the chances of becoming deformed by it. However, the best place to be rightly informed about sex is in the Creator's Instructional Manual (Bible).
What do I need to know about sex?
A. Sexual intercourse is for procreation
The ability for humans to reproduce their kind can only be achieved through sex. Why would you be involved in sexual intimacy in that relationship when you're not ready to mother or father a child? Lack of this readiness has made many to abort the destinies of children who would have become great men and women in their generation.
Mind you, the shocking truth is that abortion doesn't make you unpregnant, it only makes you a mother and father of a murdered child.
B. Pleasure
Nothing gives a man and woman mutual pleasure other than sex. It gives an intimate feeling to their soul and body and this creates an inseparable bond between them except they dissolve their union.
Because sexual intimacy gives pleasure, it also creates soul tie between the parties involved. Singles need to be careful at this point, an undue exposure to premarital sex will create a soul tie between you and the person you have sex with. And in a more complex situation, there’s an evil soul tie.
However, beneath every sexual pleasure, there’s oneness of the spirit and soul. Don't fragment your soul and destiny with many people, save sex for the right time and person.
2. Understanding
Two people can have different understanding about a thing. For instance, a glass of water can either be seen as half full or half empty, perception matters a lot.
You don't go to college to acquire an understanding about sex. The only place where you can have thorough understanding about sex is in the word of God.
Your understanding about sex is knowing when, where and how to unleash its energy and the consequence behind doing it at the wrong time and place. The knowledge that doesn't reveal the consequence of premarital or extramarital sex to you is a destructive knowledge. No wonder many perish for lack of knowledge.
Having a superficial understanding of sex isn't enough. In fact, it might not keep you away from it and it's accomplice but when you know that sexual sin is a sin against your body and Creator, you'll run away from it. Joseph knew this, that was why he fled (Gen. 39:9).
What knowledge do you have about sex and where do you acquire it?
3. Wisdom
Knowledge and understanding won't better the life of a man or woman if they fail to know its application.
Wisdom is knowing what to do, when to do and how to do. For singles, what to do is to keep themselves sexually pure. When? Now that they're single. How? Defining their relationship and to flee youthful lust and every appearance of evil.
The married also need to keep away from every third party influence that could jeopardize their marital relationship.
It is lack of wisdom for you to know that premarital sex is evil, yet you loiter around the corridor of kissing, petting, caressing, erotic conversations and so on. Lack of wisdom makes a lady to dress seductively and to announce herself for a sex hunt.
Lack of wisdom makes a lady indecisive when it comes to choosing a life partner. How can you be confused in between doing what is godly or evil? You love him but he wants sex before marriage. Don't you know that his major intention is sex and not marriage?
No matter how motivational or inspiring any sermon or article on sex or relationship can be, if you lack wisdom, you'll fall into sexual sins.
"Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom and with all your getting, get understanding (Prov. 4:7)".
"Buy the truth and sell it not; also wisdom and instruction and understanding (Prov. 23:23)".
"For the Lord gives wisdom: out of His mouth comes knowledge and understanding (Prov. 2:6)".
© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017
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