Relationship on campus especially among Christians is now not different from that which is practiced in the world. Heart break, premarital sex, abortion, unwanted pregnancy, deception, lies, immoralities and the likes are finding expression among those who are named with Christ when they're supposed to depart from iniquity.
Fellowshipping with brethren on campus ought to build and edify the youths in the body of Christ but however, it is quite painful that a place where believers are expected to gather has now become a place where wolves in sheep's clothing are secretly ruining the lives of innocent sheep and unsuspecting lambs, ladies especially.
Why am I writing this?
Recently, I wrote a post stating that going to the higher institution of learning is primarily for the purpose of building a strong career life. It's not a place to seek for whom to marry. If God destined it that way, fine, it won't be your own scheming. Don't go to school looking for who to marry.
A lot of people argued with my position but I'll remain adamant to my conviction. You may agree or not but the fact remains unchanged. There's time for everything. If you're in school and you're not mature enough to be in a relationship, do not go in there, otherwise you'll tell us stories that touches the heart. Relationship is for mature and responsible adults, not for immature boys, girls or adults.
Marriage is not a casual relationship and how you enter into it to a large extent determines your experience about it. It is a decision you must prayerfully, carefully and patiently make so that you won't be a philosopher for having a bad marriage.
Sisters hear this, don't let a brother's position or influence in your fellowship knock off your senses when he comes approaching you for a relationship. Don't be carried away by his personality impression, it takes more than that to be a responsible man.
It's quite painful that some brothers only appear to be born again but their hormones have not been crucified with Christ. How can a brother, an exco, be cornering you for sexual immoralities? I don't care if he speaks in tongue like a talking drum, it is the fruit of the spirit in his character that you should look for.
Sisters, don't be deceived with 'God says' or 'I saw that you're my future wife' that so-called 'spirikoko' brothers would conjure. If God said it to him, let God say it to you. Any brother that pressures you for a relationship doesn't hear from God correctly. There's always a time for the manifestation of whatever God reveals, only spiritually intelligent folks can understand this.
See, I'm not saying it's impossible for you to meet the right person on campus but that should never be your primary assignment or motive. That someone you know met their partner on campus doesn't mean that's God's template for every undergraduate.
Face your studies and develop an intimate relationship with God. Don't just be marking attendance in fellowship because you don't want your fellowship coordinator or HOD to see you as an unserious sister. It is your personal relationship with God that matters first. God is first calling you to a personal walk before you're to fellowship with brethren.
And let me tell you this, if you have no relationship with God, it'll be very easy for anyone to deceive you, especially those who would threaten you with 'Thus saith the Lord' or make it seem as if you'd never find a good spouse if you don't marry them.
Now, it may be possible for a brother to walk in the flesh by mistakenly bow to his sexual desire but when he makes it an every time affair without feeling remorse, my sister, run for your dear life.
Who says the likes of kissing, petting, caressing each other's sexual organs and the likes cannot lead to premarital sex when done repeatedly? Don't tempt the devil by doing evil! Flee the appearance of evil when you see a brother doing that to you behind closed doors.
Not all fellowship excos are genuinely born again. I repeat, not every fellowship leader are genuinely walking in the spirit. Some of them are so carnal that they walk more in the flesh than to be spiritually minded. Spiritual leaders are appointed and ordained by God but today, many of them on campus are elected only few are spiritually appointed to assume the leadership position.
Sisters, beware of relationship escapades in your campus fellowship. For you to know the mind of God concerning your marital life, be rooted in God.
Pursue God passionately. Serious and unserious brothers would come but the spirit of God in you will never confuse you in revealing who's right or wrong provided you have a koinonia with Him.
Don't let any brother tempt and deceive you with 'God says'. Don't let anyone of them who are still carnal expose you to sexual immoralities with the guise that it won't lead to sex.
Undergraduate Christian sisters, grow up! Be wise and connected to God.
© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017
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