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Understanding Sex: A Two-way Approach

A glass of water can either be seen as half full or half empty, perception is key. However, your perception about a thing determines your knowledge of it.

There are two dimensions to sex, I mean sexual intercourse or every activity leading to sexual intimacy can be understood based on the lens with which you choose to see it.

Why some people fall victim of sexual immoralities and some conquered sexual temptation can only be traced to their understanding of sex. The two uncommon approach to sexual intimacy are: from the natural or carnal mind or from the spiritual mind.

Your understanding of sex based on these two approach will determine your experience and the kind of knowledge, understanding and wisdom you have.

1. The carnal understanding of sex

A carnal mind cannot see sex as a sin because it is corrupted from birth. A carnal or natural mind will see sex as a normal thing but would be blind to the consequences.

Carnality and spirituality can never meet. A church goer can remain carnal but a spiritually minded person who see sex as God sees it through the lens of His word will never be carnal but would flee. But unfortunately, if a spiritually minded person choose to walk in the flesh, he'll end up in carnality.

Because there's a carnal dimension to sex, you'll often hear people use the phrase 'carnal knowledge'. This often means sexual intercourse.

A carnal mind only see sex as a physical activity because that is what his senses can relate with. He is ruled by worldly and earthly cravings for sex. All that a carnal mind desire is to touch you in a sexual way, use erotic conversations to express his feelings and his thoughts are purely sex.

A carnal mind will see a provocatively dressed woman and might have an erection. But a spiritually minded person will not take a second look. When you're in a relationship with a carnally minded being, all he or she wants is to satisfy his or her present desire for sex.

The results of a carnally minded man is death, that is, destruction. When you allow a carnal mind to lure you into sexual intimacy, be ready for outcomes such as premarital sex, extramarital sex, unwanted pregnancy, abortion, guilt, condemnation, unprepared parenthood and the likes. These are the usual outcomes especially when you're not married.

Take a carnal minded being to church, he'll still remain carnal except the Holy Spirit convicts him. Dear ladies, you can never change a man that's carnally minded, the best he will do for you is to act as though he is spiritual. If you eventually marry him, you'll see him the way he is.

More so, those who are carnal will often think, talk or act sexual with you. He will want to kiss, caress, fondle, pet or hug you intimately anytime you meet just to satisfy his sexual cravings.

2. The spiritual understanding of sex

Not everyone has spiritual understanding of sex because everybody is born into carnality, only few experienced the second birth that makes people spiritual or conscious of their spiritual life. This is why you must be born again to overcome carnality. Remember, to be carnally minded is death but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.

Those who are spiritually minded knows that sex is sweet but they can delay gratification. They know that sexual intimacy makes them one flesh, in spirit, soul and body with whoever they have illicit sex with.

Those who have spiritual understanding of sex will flee every appearance of evil and youthful lust, never will they negotiate. Spiritual understanding makes you know the bitter consequences inherent in premarital and extramarital sex. Illicit sex reduces a man or woman's destiny into a piece of bread. Don't ever think nothing happens after every illicit sexual affair, condom or no condom, souls has been tied, destinies has been fragmented and there's a spiritual binding force between them.

What informed your understanding about sex? Is it from the world or from the Word of God? You have unhindered access to carnal information about sex but only few literature will inform you explicitly about the spiritual understanding of sex.

The word of God is the only book that will give you a thorough spiritual knowledge concerning sex as the Holy Spirit enlighten you.

That a person is an MOG doesn't mean they'll have spiritual understanding of sex, except for few who fell into sexual sins, lots of people don't have spiritual understanding of sex.

A man or woman that lacks this understanding won't see illicit sex as a destruction to their souls. They'll think they're enjoying or catching fun but in the end, they'll discover the damage that has been done but it'll be too late to repair.

Dear reader, go and acquire spiritual understanding about life and sex. It was this understanding that made Joseph to flee but brother Samson took solace on Delilah's lap. Nevertheless, the understanding about sex you acquire will determine the outcome of your life whether you'd experience freedom or bondage, life or death, victory or victim.

© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017

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