What Time Should I Go Into A Relationship?

There is time for everything under the heavens, so says the Holy Bible. A time to be in a relationship and a time you must never keep a relationship when the things that matters in your life hasn't been established or set in order. 

I receive quite a lot of messages from singles who want to know the right time to go into a relationship. 

There are two kinds of relationships singles want to delve into. It's either they want to date or they're in a relationship leading to marriage. Going into a dating relationship has ruined the life of many young boys and girls who have a glorious destiny. 

That your friends or mates are dating doesn't mean you should go into a dating relationship. 

Why date when you're not ready for marriage? Why date when it'll expose you to sexual immoralities and you're not strong enough to control your sexual urge? What's the hype in a dating relationship? 

Whether you'd believe it or not, dating relationship does more harm than good. It's a relationship where you'd be sampled sexually, emotionally, financially and the likes to know how suitable you're going to be for marriage even when you're underage or ineligible for marriage. 

It allows for sexual immoralities because you'd believe you'll get married and when you know better, I mean when your understanding of who you want to marry becomes enlightened, you'll move away from the first dating relationship in search for another date. Why waste your time, resources and virtues on a futile relationship? 

Your reasons for dating or your friend's suggestions for dating could be a means for you to know how the opposite sex behaves. Who says you can't know that when you're just FRIENDS WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED? It's safer to be in a relationship that is clearly defined than to keep a relationship based on assumption or presumption. 

Truth be told, the best time to go into a relationship should be when you're ready to be committed to the opposite sex, body, soul and spirit. I will suggest a relationship leading to marriage and not just boyfriend and girlfriend relationship of a thing.

Relationship demands hard work. Are you ready to make the relationship work emotionally, spiritually, financially, mentally and psychologically? This has to do with your level of maturity. 

And before you rush into a relationship, do you know why you're here? This issue is very important. If you don't know it, you'll abuse your marriage even if you're married to the right person. In fact, you'll see your partner as a slave or an intruder.

Know why you're created. God didn't make a mistake for creating you. Even if your parents gave birth to you by mistake, God has a reason for making you to survive the period of pregnancy and has kept you up till now that you're reading this article. Discover that purpose so that you won't marry the wrong person that will frustrate your life and destiny. 

Why go into a relationship or crave for one when you're yet to complete your academic study? You can't chase two rats at the same time and catch both. Face your education squarely. No one will marry your own spouse if you do not date while in school. It's better to give your best to your education and finish with good grades than to be in a relationship, finish with bad grades and a broken heart or destroyed sexual dignity. 

The best time to be in a relationship is when you have a good relationship with God. What has God got to do with my relationship on earth, you may ask? Having an intimate relationship with God will make you know who's right or wrong for you. Many fall into the hands of deceivers because they do not know who's right or wrong. 

See in every relationship, there are pretenders and wolves in sheep's clothing. You need to intimate yourself with God so that He can keep you from the wrong people and guide you through in making the right choice when it's the right time for you to be married. 

There's a time you'd have gathered enough strength to make a relationship work. When I talk of strength, it's not the one you acquire from eating a large chunk of food or your physical strength, it has to do with your emotional, spiritual, financial and mental strength to make a great relationship. 

Relationship is a good thing. We all need relationships in life. But be careful of the relationship you'll enter into that would destroy your life and destiny. A good thing done at the wrong time is wrong. 

The terrible experiences a lot of people had in their relationship is as a result of three things: lack of preparation for the relationship, going into a relationship at the wrong time and being in a relationship with the wrong person. 

Don't rush to enter into a relationship. Take your time to prayerfully, carefully and wisely choose the right person especially when it comes to choosing whom to marry. 

That you're of age doesn't qualify you for a relationship, what matters is your ability to choose right and your understanding and application of what it takes to make a relationship successful. 

© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017